SL? RL? the mix?

Jus lately I have been giving some thought to how sl meshes with rl- mostly in relationship terms- and- you know what- its DOESNT! There have been some crossovers into rl I know of- an wtg you guys! mostly however- it jus doesnt have legs. Here is what I think- sl relationships are born of fantasy- we are all gorgeous, witty- we spend our time having fun- whats not to fall in love with? We are all in sl to supplement our rl- something is missing or we wouldnt BE there- go on, protest away- but its the truth. However, when we get close to somebody sl, the temptation to go rl is almost overwhelming- and thats when it all goes pearshaped- all the flaws are there on show- it has to be a huge disappointment.
I also dont get how you can be in a rl relationship and apparently happy, yet be spending all available time in sl with a different partner- idk- cheatin is cheatin- an thats how that one is coloured to me. I can talk with some authority- my own rl marriage ended a few months after I came to sl- an yeah- it was a contributory factor without doubt. I am WAY happier now- but thats a whole other story. Actually, I kinna like where my lives are right now- rl is fun, busy and relationship free whereas sl is all about Vinny- I love that man more each day, he is incredible. HAHAHAHAHAHAHA talk about rl an dammit, it jumps ya- I gotta run n catcha train- I think this one may well feature in future posts tho.

Callie is a plumber....?

HAHAHAHAHAHA! No, this isnt a pic of my flat- I am sooooooo proud of maself- I changed the bathroom tap washer all by maself with NO accidents! So, no story there, sadly. Actually, life has been quite boring of late- no mishaps, misunderstandings, source of shits n giggles- pretty straightforward, really.

Vinny an I are proud parents again, baby Lucas arrived yesterday, to add to our SL family. Vin is building a new house- we kinna like the one we currently have- but it needs to be bigger- we got 3 kids now, yanno! My SL brother an RL mate gets married next weekend, imma bridesmaid an also gonna do a DJ set for the reception- sadly Vin wont make it cuz of RL, though. Well, I have procrastinated enough today- I am working at home and really should get back to it.......

WOW- its been over a month since I last posted- damn thats slack!
OK, get comfy- its catch up time. Thats ma lil courtyard garden- sadly didnt have too much time to enjoy it before the weather turned- but its a lovely day today and I was out pottering, tidying up and sortin the plants out for winter.
The other picture- well- its David Draiman ofc! Went to see Disturbed last saturday at Brixton- omfg- toooooo awesome. Lots more pics- mostly crap n blurry- on ma Flickr site.
Sooooooo, apart from settlin into the new flat- which I am loving a lot- an the odd gig, RL is mostly about work. I am still training (that is sooooo close to a pun *grins*) and really gettin into the job. About a month to go before I get my license and out on my own- cant wait!
As for SL- well, it rolls on- Vinny and I are still happily married an expecting Lucas to join us and the twins at the end of October. Right now a lot of people we know are in turmoil with their relationships there- makes me realise how lucky we are. Dont get me wrong, we have our moments- damn we fight like hell- but we always seem to fix things and come back stronger. DJing is still fun- cant do very much tho, with the shiftwork- my hours are all over the place.
Well, the sun is still shining outside- I have a healthy lunch almost ready, and a little light housework to do. One thing I did when I moved was to leave the tv behind- and although I do occasionally miss it, generally- its been a great idea- I get my chores done a lot sooner! Ohhhhh- one job to be done this afternoon- replace the bathroom tap washer- I know how to do it in principle- but have never actually done it- this may well form a new post soon....

bohemian? LMAO

thass Clutch performin Electric Worry- saw em in Brighton last night- OMG they rocked! Had such an awesome time- was an adventure, of course! Bunch of guys piled up to the bar as I gots the first drink- an insisted on buyin me Jagers as it was somebodys birthday.... well- several shots later.... I wasnt totally reprehensible- I gots home in one piece an unaccompanied, LOL. Bohemian? Oh yeah- thats how my new landlady described me to the neighbours- how'd you suppose she knew? The new flat is takin shape- imma on a cleanin frenzy still, but its lookin kinna cool, might even post a pic of ma courtyard soon.

back to the future

LMAO- I always wanted to say that! well, SL is a heap more fun now. Vinny and I have re-partnered- and that has made me mucho happy. I finally worked out the problem- sheesh- the Italiano in that man is astonishing. This is the reworked land so far- new house, with the coolest basement- a huge tv, stage for live music, bar, ofc- pool and darts, too.I still need to work on the landscaping, but we are both really pleased with it so far- and loving our SL and time together too. Vinny is the most incredible man- with a huge heart, all of it MINE! The only irritation SL is that I cant DJ right now, I have a dead mic and cant work out what the problem is- its either a conflict between Vista and my soundcard or the damn card has fritzed- I am going round in circles trying to fix it- driving me crazy.

RL is going pretty good too, gettin on with the job- loving it, in fact. Its a lot of learning- still got at least 11 weeks before I get my license, and off the training salary, which is, umm tight! Its my last day at work today for a week or so- tomorrow I will be doing all the final packing, ready for the move on Friday- I cant wait. I love my new place, and the neighbours here have become almost impossible to deal with- I wont be shedding a tear to leave them behind.

thats a pic of the pier where I am moving too- a proper Victorian pier- love it! Packin is progressing slowly, damn, its hard work- an knowin it all has to be unpacked at the other end too *sighs* Still, I plan to take a few days off- hopefully the weather will be kind and I can enjoy a glass of wine in ma new courtyard garden. I suspect I will be ready for a break by then- my poor lil brain is creakin with all the information gettin stuffed in it. Goin to see Clutch that week too- cant begin to say how much I am lookin forward to that- an omg, Disturbed are tourin in October- so thats a MUST- jus waitin on friends to sort out days off n stuff. Life is changing, slowly but surely- I am more self sufficient than I have been for a long time. Its funny- I said I would slip into the depot quietly, keepin ma own counsel till I worked out whats what *snorts* I guess it was a vain hope- I am jus not the shy retiring type- an I am WAY easy to spot with the tomato soup coloured hair. God help em when I start to feel at home *grins*

My diabetes seems to be well under control these days, to the point where I think it might be possible to reduce my meds again- I will discuss that with my new GP- another thing on the to do list- find a doctor. I was crackin up yesterday, as I checked out the supermarket situation- its an upmarket town all right- it has a WAITROSE!

that was how my lagoon looked, before I cleared all the land last week- its all up for sale, right now- but, I may trade it in against a sim- not really decided. SL has become less attractive a place- I have very few friends left there, my brother has left and me n Vinny- well, we are talking. I have no idea if we can recover out relationship, or even if we should- but, seems to me its worth trying. I am much clearer than I have ever been of what I want and expect from my man- and compromise has to be a 2 way thing- we shall see. Whats going on RL? Well, I have found yet another flat, moving in 3 weeks- this one is great, on the coast, big rooms, small courtyard garden- I am really lookin forward to it- though the packing is a nightmare. I havent had much time, the training course I have been on has been pretty exhausting too. However- I passed the first- and most important part this week- so I am kinna pleased with myself. Its a long haul till I qualify as a conductor- at least 12 more weeks, but I am enjoying it- not to mention the bliss of having money in my pocket. Just now, I feel a bit flat still, such a lot of things in transition/turmoil and not a dream in sight. Maybe thats not such a bad thing, a reality check. One lil ray of sunshine- I talked to an old friend earlier, we hadnt exactly drifted apart- more exploded- but we talked an it was good- some people jus wont get outta your head.